I am seventeen and I am what some consider gay but, what I really think I am is “not straight”. I have had relations with men, but also women. But I do not think I am bisexual because I tend to find men more attractive and fun than women. My friends are very accepting of me, but many of my girl friends wish I were straight. I am happy the way I am as of right now, but I just don’t know what to do. What advice could you give me?
I know how you feel. The problem is, you don’t. If your friends accept you, why can’t you just accept yourself? You say you’re happy the way you are, but then sign yourself “disgruntled”. The way I see it, you should just do whatever (and whoever) you want, and leave it at that.
Maybe you’re gay, maybe you’re straight. Maybe you find that one girl doesn’t turn you on, but what about two at the same time? Or would you be more open to a chick if there were also a dude in the room? Regular readers of this column know that the best solution to all questions of sexual ambiguity (and to many other problems, as well) is just to go ahead and have a threesome. Take one of those girls who wishes you were straight, and one of those guys who wishes you were gay, and get it over with.